In the Birthmother and Birthfather sections of this site, you will find reading resources, support, and information to help you as you move forward. There are so many resources available to you in the modern adoption community. Reach out and allow others to reach out to you. However, if you ever feel uncomfortable with your support group or your counselor, it's OK to move onto someone else. You need to do what's best for you, what will help you down the path to healing and emotional recovery. You should feel completely comfortable and safe in your support group and in your counselor's office. If not, it may not be the right fit for you and your specific needs.
We also recommend that you join our Forum on "Healing, Recovery, and Success." These forums are filled with those who want to help you and who need help in return. This can be a great place for you, no matter which stage you're currently at with the healing process. Sometimes the best way to heal yourself is to help others by lifting them emotionally. You may find that you forget some of your own pain when you help others with theirs. If you're not quite ready to join and actively participate in the forums, you can sign up and just be a spectator at first. Read posts and comments by others and wait until you are ready. Once you're ready, you can jump right in.
Post-placement healing isn't going to happen overnight. It takes time to do it right and heal properly. You can't rush though it. If you do, that pain will resurface, and sometimes it will resurface with greater force than it did previously. So, take your time and even though it's hard, try to enjoy the journey. Journal your experience so you can look back later and see your amazing progress. You may not know how far you've come until you see where you began.
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