Birthfathers After Adoption

The word "birthfather" is often used to describe men both before and after their child has been adopted. If you are searching for support, legal rights, and other information about or for men before the adoption, please see the Expectant Father section of CrisisPregnancy.com.

Information below is for, by, and about men whose children have been placed for adoption.

Birthfather Discussion List
Scroll down the page to find the list. Registered members only.

Birthfathers and Miracles
Birthfathers are sometimes vilified and given labels like "dead-beat dads," but in many situations, that's far from the truth.

Birthfathers: The Forgotten Half of the Story
From placing to reunion, birthfathers can often be relegated to non-entities, and they often are left to deal with feelings of guilt, shame, and anger on their own, without support; by Eliza Newlin Carney.

Dear Andy
Compiling a scrapbook for the son he's never known, a father confronts his grief.

Ellen's Story
Written by her birthfather and adoptive father.

Fathers and Son
Some affirming reflections by an adoptive father after meeting his son's biological father.

I am Blessed
At 19, he walked away, and decades later, David M. searched, found his daughter, and recognizes the blessings in his life.

I Reflect as I Wait
A wonderful poem by birthfather, J. T. Niswonger.

Jason's Story
Jason, his adoptive dad and his birth dad write.

My Birth Father's Legitimate Grief
An adoptee writes.

Sound of Silence: Birthfathers
Birthfathers are the most silent group in the adoption community as far as participation in online groups, reunion registries, and extended families. Our community shares thoughts and opinions about why this might be so.

Stepping Out of the Shadows: Birthfathers Speak Out
The most silent segment of the adoption community steps out of the shadows, by Mary Martin Mason.

The Impact of Adoption on Birth Parents
It isn't only birthmothers who experience great emotional upheavals over the years following the placement of their children. Birthfathers have emotions, too.

Winter Hearts
A man and his family welcome the chance of reunion with the daughter he was told he fathered.